I've been living with my boyfriend for nearly 6 years and I identify with what you're saying and see how I've been wrong in some cases. My boyfriend (what a weird word for what we are) does not really like doing housework and won't take the initiative in most cases. When he does I'm happy but you're right -- I do pick on how he could have done something better. he never does the bed "right". I like the bed made with everything tight, hospital corners, the bedspread even on all sides, and the throw pillows arranged *just so*. When he makes the bed it's very loose, haphazard and what I think is sloppy. I rag on him about that and finally he told me (after many bouts of arguing -- why couldn't he say this the first time?) that he doesn't like "the way it feels" when he gets into bed and the sheets and blankies are tightly tucked. He's a bit too tall for the bed, I guess. He's almost 6 foot 2. Maybe we need a California King.
He is making lunch now and he is a great cook. I do my share of it as well and we're balanced when it comes to cooking. He will 99% of the time cook without complaint. Neither one of us always puts things in the dishwasher after we eat, but I've been loading and unloading and washing the dishes a lot lately and doing all the laundry. I try to explain to him that on his days off (like today) if he plays his online game that's fine but guess what, the wash can be washing while he does it. And then it can be drying. And folding doesn'ttake very long. (I don't have a problem with him doing laundry at all. He folds everything just fine:)
(He just put a plate in front of me with a sandwich on it with chips on the side and said, "Soup will be coming." Isn't that sweet?:)
He's really good about taking care of the kitchen but when he is working a lot on certain weeks I do end up doing it, and he continually neglects the floor. He'll comment how it needs to be cleaned and I'll say yeah you shoudl do that, lol. But I have ended up doing the floor the last few times.
The one area that drives me crazy is the bathrooms. We only use one of the showers (we have two full baths but I don't use the guest bath because I don't wanna have to clean TWO bathrooms) and I'd LOVE it if he's get down with the scrubber and the CLR sometimes. He never does. I'd like him to scrub the toilets and he never does. I've asked him to, and well I guess he just either doesn't SEE it or decides to put it off for later, I dunno which. I'd just like some help with that.
You're right that relationships don't grow on trees and all these things are legitimate points. Who does what in the house -- we just try and strike a balance. Lately I've been doing more house stuff but I also try to remember that he's been working more hours and hasn't HAD the time at home to do it all, plus when he's home he does deserve a chance to rest and enjoy his online gaming and stuff. Lord knows I have my fanfic obsession and Live Journal and all.
Last night his mom called and told him his father has cancer, so he's going to fly out to CA to see him next week. I think it's best for me to stay here (in TX -- I'm not from TX, btw) and let him have time away from me and time with his dad and all. That plus I have a fear of flying he really doesn't need to deal with right now, and I have to work anyway.
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He is making lunch now and he is a great cook. I do my share of it as well and we're balanced when it comes to cooking. He will 99% of the time cook without complaint. Neither one of us always puts things in the dishwasher after we eat, but I've been loading and unloading and washing the dishes a lot lately and doing all the laundry. I try to explain to him that on his days off (like today) if he plays his online game that's fine but guess what, the wash can be washing while he does it. And then it can be drying. And folding doesn'ttake very long. (I don't have a problem with him doing laundry at all. He folds everything just fine:)
(He just put a plate in front of me with a sandwich on it with chips on the side and said, "Soup will be coming." Isn't that sweet?:)
He's really good about taking care of the kitchen but when he is working a lot on certain weeks I do end up doing it, and he continually neglects the floor. He'll comment how it needs to be cleaned and I'll say yeah you shoudl do that, lol. But I have ended up doing the floor the last few times.
The one area that drives me crazy is the bathrooms. We only use one of the showers (we have two full baths but I don't use the guest bath because I don't wanna have to clean TWO bathrooms) and I'd LOVE it if he's get down with the scrubber and the CLR sometimes. He never does. I'd like him to scrub the toilets and he never does. I've asked him to, and well I guess he just either doesn't SEE it or decides to put it off for later, I dunno which. I'd just like some help with that.
You're right that relationships don't grow on trees and all these things are legitimate points. Who does what in the house -- we just try and strike a balance. Lately I've been doing more house stuff but I also try to remember that he's been working more hours and hasn't HAD the time at home to do it all, plus when he's home he does deserve a chance to rest and enjoy his online gaming and stuff. Lord knows I have my fanfic obsession and Live Journal and all.
Last night his mom called and told him his father has cancer, so he's going to fly out to CA to see him next week. I think it's best for me to stay here (in TX -- I'm not from TX, btw) and let him have time away from me and time with his dad and all. That plus I have a fear of flying he really doesn't need to deal with right now, and I have to work anyway.
I love my guy. :)